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Wednesday, November 22, 2006

so, which one is it????

According to askmen.com

Number 10 :Your lady doesn't put out
Every man has heard that the best way to get a woman to stop having sex with him is by marrying her. Apparently, long-term relationships seem to suck the sex drive out of many women, leaving men gasping for fulfillment. With the need for more sex, some men will start "working late" more often. Or it could just be that the sex has become boring. She doesn't want to try new things in bed, or won't perform fellatio. Some men may cheat because they don't want their girlfriends or wives to perform certain sex acts that would ruin their "good girl" image, so they get a mistress to take care of it. Like Robert de Niro said in Analyze This , "That's the mouth she kisses my kids good night with!" In light of this, I call on lawmakers around the world to create an International BJ Day, where men and women get the day off from work and get all the oral satisfaction they need from their partners. I'll bet that this alone would cut infidelity by at least 75%.

Number9 :She cheated on you
So you found out your lady was being unfaithful, and the only way you can relieve your anger is by doing the same. For many men, this is the only way to get back at their cheating girlfriends and even the score. Some men might even cheat to get back at all the cheating women they've had the misfortune of dating throughout their lives; now that's efficiency.

Number 8:It's challenging and exciting
If you consider the women you sleep with "sexual trophies," chances are you have already cheated at least once in your life. Some men simply cannot leave behind the thrill of the hunt, the chase and the conquest. For other men, the excitement is in the variety, like changing ice cream flavors for one day after years of sticking to just one.

Number 7 :You can get away with it
"What eyes don't see, the heart doesn't feel," goes the old adage, and it still holds true, as long as there are no cameras around. The knowledge that no one will find out and no one will get hurt is reason enough for some men to grab a different helping. But be careful; as men get craftier with avoiding detection, women get more sophisticated with detecting, not to mention boosting their network of spies.

Number 6:It boosts your ego
Nothing lifts the old self-esteem like discovering that other women still desire you sexually. When in long-term relationships, men may begin to question their sexual marketability, which will lead some of them to sow their clandestine wild oats. Once a man knows he can get back in the game, he'll return to his mate; or not. What's a guy to do when his girlfriend's-a-naggin' and opportunity comes-a-knockin'?

Number 5 :The opportunity was there
It's an uncontested fact that most men can't say "no" to sex. Although guys aren't constantly bombarded with sexual offers, sometimes an irresistible prospect presents itself. Maybe it's a frisky ex-girlfriend, maybe it's a horny hottie on the dance floor. A guy may see it as once-in-a-lifetime occasion that might never be available again. Carpe diem , as they say.

Number 4 Your girlfriend is a nag.
Most men have experienced at least one woman who thrives on making him feel like crap. Constant nagging, fighting and squabbling in the right ratios is the best recipe for a headache. Cheating with another woman is a common escape from this domestic hell, and works better than aspirin.

Number 3Women let us
Truth be told, women are quick to forgive men for their unfaithful behavior. Maybe it's their fear of being alone, or that women are simply the more merciful ones of the human species. Some women might even blame themselves for their men's infidelities, and take steps to improve their relationships. The fact that many women let their men get away with murder might compel them to double deal repeatedly. Just ask Bill Clinton.

Number 2 She doesn't turn you on anymore
Long-term relationships have the annoying habit of making people lazy. No longer concerned with staying fit and attractive, a committed woman might lose the allure she once had. Her man may simply not find her beautiful anymore, and making love to her is not as stirring as it once was. This is why most mistresses are gorgeous, young women.

Number 1You don't love her anymore
Alas, after a long time together, you have lost the feelings you once had for her. But the relationship has remained too much a part of you. Separating seems so painful, so radical that it's almost inconceivable. So instead of separating, you go elsewhere to get your physical gratification. Most times this does not help matters, but only prolongs the inevitable breakup.

Saturday, September 02, 2006

Sunday, March 26, 2006

"let go your sorrow
let go your blues
coz I know tomorrow
is yesterday's news
let go your sadness
give up the fight
follow your madness
and take flight....take flight."

---Seal

Sunday, February 26, 2006

sitting alone, doing nothing
you can say being pathetic
here's "celebrating" 13 years.

Friday, February 24, 2006

13 years ago today I made a big bold move.

Now 13 years after, I'm being forced to re-examine if I did the right thing.

So this is how "crap" feels like.....

Therapy #2: Color my Hair

Thursday, February 23, 2006

Who's to say what decisions are right in these situations? Who decides which way to go? Why am I so torn?

"I can live without you, I just don't want to."

I try to make sense or reason of this every single time. Is this an attempt to shift attention or the weight of the situation? Is there a consolation that I'm supposed to owe him?

The question remains.....how do i want to proceed in my life? I still do not know. Why don't I want it so badly that I can finally say, this is what I want?

On one hand, 11 years is not something that is easy to let go of. However, i am as of now, still very much broken. I know I will be for the rest of my life. If I can't promise to forget, what's the use of going on?

Monday, February 20, 2006

I was finally able to delete the pictures......Maybe it means I'm ready to move forward, wherever forward is.......